Lately I’ve been uh, criticized for my weekly excursions, (cycling and such), where I am the sole female participating. I am being advised that I should take care of my, associations.
I see her judgement purely from an usrah’s ideal communication point of view; where a woman must wholeheartedly reserve herself against any contact with unless absolute necessary. She speaks of respect for a certain friends of mine, whose been dubbed as the ideal woman that everyone wants to marry, irreproachable, irretrievable. Aaaah, to be judged for the external. rather than the internal. Character, personality, wit, and taste is thrown out of the window once they stumble upon the image of the woman clad in tudung labuh, staunch and reserved.
Forgive me but I am no fan of such passivity. I do not see why a simple chat with anyone can be labelled as nafsu, that can lead to the devil himself. Why this separation of roles of men and women to begin with? Can they not partake in the same activities, complement each other with ideas, that make together a whole? Why must everyone see an ulterior, shady motive behind everything?
If the idea of jaga ikhtilat, pergaulan, means to sit back and watch everything in passivity (as women ought to do), without ever allowing to speak their minds, or that our sole preoccupation is with marriage and children, and wait for someone to come knock at your parent’s door and propose you, then count me out. If we see our roles as much as it only concerns the womb, rather than the mind, body and soul, count me out.
I feel that I ought to speak when I need to, that I should take part when I need to, without fear of what people would say and judge.
*Sigh*
God alone knows my intentions.
perkaraperkara 